Have you been sitting at home, swiping away, and wanting to get matched and hoping that person just jumps out from the screen and drops into your lap? Or have you given up on dating altogether because you find the process maddening?
It is easy to get discouraged when you find another dud, leaving you to wonder, “where are all the good people out there anyway”?
Start with your mindset. If you believe all the right people are already taken, you will show up in the dating very differently than if you believe that there are great options for you out there and you just have to do the work using the right tools, systems, attitude to find them. Over time, you will be successful. Dating is one of the main areas you can use to learn about yourself, about other people, about what you want and do not want. This is where you define yourself, your life goals, and your future. If you are ready for partnership, you need to take the first few steps.
If you are still worrying whether your match will like you or not, instead ask yourself if they are someone you would consider desirable and why. Start by meeting people, evaluating them for who they are, not for what you want them to be. Seek to learn something from each person you meet. Learn about their personalities, likes and dislikes, life goals. Each person you meet is a unique gift to you, which also includes “Thank you for showing up like a douchebag so I don’t waste time on you”. As with learning anything new, some of the time you will be disappointed and confused and other times you will have fun and hope.
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